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Only in America  

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Only in America - Tony Wong - MapleRipplesAmy Chua with daughters

Hot issues of late have been about parenting and how Chinese and western perspectives on it differ. Amy Chua (蔡美兒), a Yale professor who raised her two daughters in her own tiger-mother way, published a book named "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother"(我在美國做媽媽). In the book, Amy discloses her never letting her daughters have a playdate, or watching TV, playing computer games, or attending a sleepover. Amy would also never allow her daughters not to be the No. 1 in every subject except gym and dramma. She would respond to her daughters' B grades with "hair-spliting explosion".

Amy tries to explain how Chinese parents and western parents are different in terms of how to raise their children. To be honest, parts of her stories are shared with people in China. Chinese parents are known to be strict, or even stern. I have my childhood under the same weather as Amy Chua has as well.

But beyond all these fusses, is Amy's tiger mother way really good for modern-time Chinese mothers? My answer is, without a doubt, no. Amy and her daughters live in America, where education itself is emphysized to be fostering creativity and learning is demonstrated to be fun. Among other students, Amy's daughters gain competitive advantage if they are educated under a stricter rule. Besides, Amy was only strict with the daughters, but as a Yale professor, she never rinsed away creativity and excellency. On the other hand, Chinese children are born to be non-creative. They are not expected to be critical about what they are gonna learn, on the contrary, they are taught to obey the teachers' instructions, with no questions or doubt. On this soil, being strict would only add pressure to the children and would only make things worse. In fact, it's a matter of gaining competitive advantage over peers. In America, where everybody's free, it's good to be strict without killing creativity. In China, where everybody's in a cage, it's good to set the birds free and let them fly!

Once I heard a story about a tigher mother in China did exactly the same things as what Amy did to her son. Her son studied well, and got admitted into Chinese Acadamy of Science (中科院)at the age of about 16. A genious, however, he didn't know anything but textbooks, nor did he have the ability to take care of himself. He was expelled at last and his mother committed to suicide.

Amy Chua, only in America.

Only in America - Tony Wong - MapleRipples Cover of the book
 
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